“And the LORD God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” – Genesis 2:18

The word help meet or helper simply means, “one who helps”. So many woman think that the word "help" means being a slave, but remember its also used to describe God when He comes to our aid (Psalms 33:20, 115:9-11). You are very important. God is Omniscient “all knowing” He created you because He knew Adam would need help. Man would need woman, to help him fulfill God’s purpose for his life.

SELF ESTEEM
The main reason this type of dress exists from our Christian women, has to do with their self-esteem being low. To my Christian bruhs, our Christians sisters shouldn’t have to look outside the church for affirmation. My pastor would always hold us accountable about praising our sisters in the church. Our sisters need to be spiritually mature enough to have healthy relationships with single men, who feel free enough to affirm them and not have their motives questioned. I am sick of these punks comin’ up in tha church, takin’ our women just for a quick hit! Then we wonder why our women get stereotyped for being freaky.

“The preacher’s daughter screaming out "F the law!" I play a struck chord, wit the Christians, but y'all got the freakiest b**ches out of all the religions.”
- Ja Rule / Song: Clap Back

Those are our sisters they are talking about and some of the blame falls on us men. You often hear Christian men say, “I’ll never find a virtuous woman!” You may have her now, but without affirmation and praise you will never know it. The virtuous woman is revered by all Christian men however, until we realize she was praised, we may never see her in our lifetime.

“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.”
- Proverbs 31:28

“…But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. “
– Proverbs 31:30

A diamond won’t shine until you polish it. A woman of God won’t reach her full potential until she’s praised.

ACCOUNTABILITY
I was at one HHH conference this year and what was blowing my mind was that some of the women who were in attendance dressed like harlots!

Stomachs showing, painted on jeans, form fitting shirts and skirts. GIVE A BROTHA A CHANCE! I thought I was at the club. Even my man Nealreal noticed it and just shook his head. No one who spoke at this conference said a word about the way some of these women were dressed.

Your dress should big up the LORD not your body. Nowadays you can’t tell the Christian women from the club hoppin hoochie. I was praying that one of the sisters at the door would pull these sistas aside and talk to them about the way they were dressed. But when I observed one of the hostess’s attire, I knew that wasn’t going to happen. Like I said before in the Temptation article, when you hold someone accountable, you open yourself up to be held accountable.

“A kingdom woman is called of God not to dress in a ways that stimulates inappropriate responses.” – Pastor Tony Evans

INTERIOR DESIGN
So many Christian women wonder why they keep meeting the wrong men. Take a good look in the mirror. Wearing immodest attire can misrepresent who you are inside, soliciting attention from unsaved men.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment… Instead, it should be that of your inner self… which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
– 1 Peter 3:3- 4

Your outward appearance only lasts for about a month or two in a relationship, after that, it’s all about your personality. It’s like test-driving a car. The outside is what gets you in the car but if the ride is rough and the interior isn’t comfortable, you leave it on the lot. My friends and I often joke about how “fine” Halle Berry is but yet she can’t seem to keep a man. Speaking of celebrities, people are clowning Janet for being with Jermaine Dupri but it’s obvious that she has learned some hard lessons on outward beauty from two failed marriages.

“It doesn’t really matter what the eye can see, cuz I’m in love with the inner being. It doesn’t really matter what they believe, what matters to me is your love for me.”
– Janet / Song: Doesn’t Really Matter

Remember, King Lemuel never described the virtuous woman as being beautiful. Actually in Proverbs 31:30 he said, “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised!” Lemuel was king and probably had many beautiful women but he desired the one that was virtuous. Women of God, make the men get to know you on the inside, don’t expose all the goodies he will get once he marries you! Fear God and trust HIM in sending you your husband.

LISTEN TO YOUR SPIRIT
I started lifting weights to impress the women but now it’s for my wife. Even after we got married, I still wore tank tops and physique flattering gear. I would always get on her about what was modest but I never looked at myself. I stopped wearing tank tops in public after I was convicted by the response I was getting from women. I myself had become a walking lust machine. Often you hear people say, “ I can’t help it if my clothes fit my body the way they do.” I disagree. Certain clothes were designed to show off your body. Nowadays, to dress in style is to be immodest. I stopped wearing clothes that show off my physique. There’s a way to dress without compromising God’s word. We as Christians have to be aware of the deceptions of Satan. If we look no different from the world, how can we set an example for them to follow?

“I’m lookin’ past the cute face and past the skin tight clothes. It’s understood ya lookin’ good, but what’s the deal wit ya soul? Is she saved? She don’t look Christ like to me, but don’t quote me cuz she just might be.”
– Seven / Song: I Just Can’t Tell

Your Brother in Christ - Maji